i'm not like you ◇ THE WINDOW

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Preface — "It Happened on a Starbucks Patio

The author of the codex, in their first sustained address to the reader.

A man at a Starbucks patio, eight months ago. The author has not been able to stop thinking about him.

Preface — “It Happened on a Starbucks Patio”

The man at the next table over was telling us that the people he used to work for could travel to nearby galaxies.

He said it the way one might mention that a brother-in-law had gotten into commercial real estate — without showmanship, without the small leaning-in liars do when they are about to enjoy themselves. It was a Saturday morning in May, in a strip-mall Starbucks in Chandler, Arizona, the patio facing a parking lot facing a four-lane road facing another strip mall, and the heat off the asphalt was already, at nine-thirty in the morning, deciding what it was going to do to us by noon. Three of us were sitting at a metal Starbucks patio table that had clearly never had QA testing in the sun. We had nowhere to be. It was that kind of morning. The man was alone, drinking an unsweetened iced green tea. No modifications. I noticed because it was the first thing about him that did not match the story. A man telling you, in 2025, that his former leadership had the ability to travel to nearby galaxies should, by every law of narrative economy I know, be drinking something complicated. He was drinking the simplest thing on the menu.1

He was reading a book whose cover was a photograph of galaxies — dust lanes and spiral arms, the kind of cover that signals to the bookstore browser that this is that section of the store. My eye fell on the cover before it fell on him, the way one notices the spine of a book on a stranger’s shelf before noticing the stranger. He saw me notice. There is a particular expression a reader’s face takes when he sees you looking at his book — a small lift in the eyebrows that is half ready-to-recommend-it and half ready-to-be-asked-about-it — and he caught my eye, and asked us, in a friendly way, whether we minded if he joined us for a minute because the table next to us was getting too much sun. That was how it started. He moved his iced green tea and his book across the gap between the tables and sat down. None of us had asked him anything. He had asked us a small permission, and we had given it, and the conversation that followed was conducted, for its full length, in the register of a man who had already decided to talk.

He was, by every visible index, fine. Mid-fifties. A pressed short-sleeve button-down in the kind of blue retail calls French and I would call hospital cafeteria. A wedding ring that had been on the same finger long enough to leave a permanent indentation. By the time my friend — God bless her, she will talk to anyone — got around to asking him what he did for a living, we had already heard the travel to nearby galaxies sentence twice. He was a database administrator at one of the regional credit unions in the Phoenix metro, he said. He had been a DBA there for eleven years. Before that, what he called the private sector, a clause Americans use to describe both consulting firms and CIA cutouts and that I had regarded as one of the more honest phrasings the language allows. And before the private sector, he said — and here he did not lean in, did not lower his voice, did not check the patio for listeners — he had worked for a branch of the government, and the leadership of that branch had the demonstrated capacity to travel to nearby galaxies.

He said demonstrated. The word stuck.

We talked to him for the better part of three hours. He was, throughout, the same man — same pitch, same patience, same willingness to elaborate when asked and not when not — and the story he was telling us did not develop the small structural cracks that develop in a fabricated story across the third or fourth hour, when the speaker has used up their initial commitments and is improvising. He was not improvising. He was answering questions out of a coherent internal model that included a specific star in the Andromeda galaxy — he named it, in the casual flat way one names the town one’s grandmother was from, and the name belonged to a real object in the sky — and a specific timeframe and a specific class of operational achievement the leadership of his former branch had been responsible for. I have not been able to stop thinking about him in the eight months since.

I want to be precise about what I am claiming. I am not claiming the man was telling the truth. I am claiming something stranger — that he was telling it the way a person tells a true thing. There is a recognizable register in which human beings convey information they consider settled — my mother is a Methodist; the train comes at eleven-fourteen; I had pancreatitis in 2017 — and the register has nothing in particular to do with the content of the claim. It has to do with the speaker’s relationship to the claim. He was in that register the whole time. He did not modulate. He did not ramp. He did not pre-laugh. He did not check our faces to see whether we were buying. He was not, as we say in a different idiom about a different topic, in marketing.

The easy reading is: the man was crazy.

The easy reading is available, and many of you will be reaching for it with a kind of relief. I understand. I reached for it too, for about three weeks. The easy reading is what we keep on a shelf near the door of the mind for exactly this sort of encounter; it is small and light and it does not require us to renovate anything. We pick it up and put it on and walk out of the conversation wearing it.

The easy reading does not survive eight months of attention.2

I do not mean it was disproved. I have no instrument that disproves it. I mean only that when I returned to the encounter again and again — in the car, at the sink, at three in the morning the way one returns to embarrassments — the man did not get crazier the longer I looked at him. He stayed the same shape. He kept saying demonstrated. The hypothesis the man is crazy did the work of dismissal but did not do the work of explanation. The encounter would not metabolize.

So I started, over the autumn, asking what would metabolize it.

This book is the result of that asking. It is not the easy reading. It is also not the wild reading — and therefore his former leadership really does travel to nearby galaxies, here are the photographs. I have no photographs. I have a man, on a patio, in Chandler, telling us something with the calm of a man telling us about his prostate. I have eight months of subsequent thinking. I have the public record, which has changed substantially since 2017 and which a reasonable adult with a library card3 can assemble over a long weekend. I have the materials gathered for the companion book, Maintenance Window. And I have the shape of an argument the man on the patio fits inside, the way a small stone fits inside the cup of a larger one, and which this book is going to walk you through.

A note about the companion. Maintenance Window exists. Same custodianship. It presents itself as a curated collection of documents, letters, stories, and procedural artifacts, some clearly fictional, some apparently not, several the editor has declined to classify. You may read it as fiction. I recommend reading it as fiction. The book in your hands — the framework that book would imply, if it were assembled honestly and if the framework had been written down separately and not embedded in mood and metaphor — is co-equal with it. I will decline, here and throughout, to tell you which one to believe more. They are designed to be read in either order. I have my preferences. They are not load-bearing.

This is not a UFO book. The genre has spent seventy years building a vocabulary I refuse to inherit. I will name Roswell once and then leave it alone. I will not engage in the debunkers say X / the believers say Y triangulation, which is the genre’s most exhausted move and which has the curious property of making both parties sound less intelligent than they actually are. I will mention the New York Times piece of December 16, 2017, by Cooper, Blumenthal, and Kean, because that piece broke an information dam and the water is still running. I will mention Luis Elizondo because his career trajectory is itself a datum. I will mention David Grusch because his July 2023 House testimony is, whatever else it is, on the Congressional record. I will mention Robert Lazar exactly once, only to note that the careful reader of his disclosures will find one or two operational details no one was supposed to know in 1989, and then move on, because a book that gets sidetracked by Lazar deserves what it gets.

It is also not a theology. I am not going to ask you to believe anything. The book will ask you to suspend a number of things — your default reading of certain folk traditions, your default geography of where on this planet the interesting room is, your default model of how memory works — but the suspension is provisional, and the book will return your beliefs to you at the door if you decide to take them back.

What the book is, I think, is a speculative ontology. A description of what would have to be the case for a particular set of public artifacts and a particular set of less public ones to fit together in the way they appear to fit together. The hypothesis is not mine. I did not generate it. I found it half-assembled in the materials, and I am presenting the assembly here with my hand on the work but not, I hope, on the conclusions.

If you want a one-paragraph version of what the assembled hypothesis says, here it is, and I will then spend fourteen chapters earning it. There has been, for an unknown but apparently long span of time, a co-resident intelligent population on this planet whose physical relationship to the surface has changed in the last twelve thousand years; there is a small, continuous human institutional structure that has been in working contact with this population since approximately the mid-twentieth century; that contact involves a recurring procedure, performed periodically on a registered subset of the human population, whose purpose is administrative rather than malicious but whose phenomenology is, from the inside of any given subject, exactly what abduction literature has been describing for sixty-odd years; and the disclosure tempo of the last decade is not, contrary to the common reading, a leak. It is a pace.

That paragraph is the limit of my naming. Everything in it will be unpacked, slowly and with citations, in the chapters that follow.

A word about a small lie I have already told, or have at least been weighing. I called the table he moved to ours our table, which is accurate to the geometry but not to the encounter; the man was always, in my memory, slightly apart. He sat with us, drank his iced green tea with us, talked with us for the better part of three hours, and yet the after-image I carry is of a man at the next table over — present, addressable, but on the other side of a small invisible distance the conversation never quite closed. The lie I have been weighing is whether to tell you he was at the next table over throughout, because that would be truer to what I remember even though it is contradicted by where the chairs were. I have not told that lie. I have come close to telling it. I note the temptation because a book of this kind cannot afford temptations that go unnoted, and because the temptation is itself diagnostic — a man like this is always at the next table over, even when you have given him your permission to join.4

Now — three things I am going to ask you to refuse to do while reading this book.

The first is to ask, in the early chapters, whether I believe what I am writing. The question is going to come up for you. It is a fair question. It is not a useful one. The book is structured so that the answer becomes available, in a graduated way, around the middle of Part III; asking before then will pull you out of the building before the building has shown you what it does. Suspend the question for a hundred and fifty pages. You can have it back any time after that.

The second is to look for a single contradiction and discard the book on it. There will be contradictions. The materials this book is built from were generated by many hands across many decades, some hostile to each other, several in active deception of each other; an internally consistent fabrication would itself be powerful evidence the materials had been laundered, and they have not been. The right move with the contradictions is to hold them. It is not the move you have been trained to make by years of reading better-edited books than this one. I am sorry. I have done what I can.

The third is to read the book in a hurry. This is a slow book. It is built to be read at the pace of a person who has time, in the evening, to think between chapters about what the previous chapter implied. If you read it fast you will encounter the cosmology as a wall of claims and you will, reasonably, bounce off it. If you read it slow you will encounter it as a series of small rooms each of which has a window onto the next room, and the slowness is what lets the windows do what windows do.

A note about the title, which I have argued with myself about for the better part of a year. I wanted to call it The Codex. This is a stupid title. It is stupid because codex exists in the popular vocabulary mainly as the third word of game titles and the second word of art-book catalogue numbers, and I am not making either. It is also stupid because codex has a certain self-impressed gravity. I argued, against myself, that codex nevertheless named something useful: an organized binding of leaves, originally distinguished from a scroll — a unit of writing whose structure is random-access rather than sequential. The book is, structurally, random-access. You can read its chapters out of order. Codex names this. The Book does not. Field Guide names a different thing. The Materials, which the editor of Maintenance Window uses throughout, would have been my choice had I not wanted a word to distinguish my volume from theirs. I lost. The book is called The Codex. Inside its own pages I will mostly call it this book, because this codex sounds the way I do not want to sound.

I owe a debt I want to acknowledge. The book that taught me what a book like this could be — what a book about a serious subject could do when it refused to be a textbook — is Douglas Hofstadter’s Gödel, Escher, Bach. I read it in college, the way half a generation of people read it in college, and I have been carrying it around ever since. Hofstadter did several things in that book I am openly stealing. He let the structure do part of the work the content could not do alone. He treated his footnotes as a place where he was permitted to be funnier than the main text. He let the book know it was a book; he refused the academic decorum that would have asked him to pretend the author was not in the room. I am refusing the same decorum. If I cannot enjoy the writing of this, I cannot ask you to trust me through the claims.

I will mention, here, the most uncomfortable fact about a book of this kind, and then carry it quietly. The hypothesis this book assembles makes a particular claim about who is most affected by the assembly of the hypothesis, and the answer turns out to be — by its own internal logic — the set of human beings who are, right now, in the late 2020s, becoming able to assemble it. That set includes the writer of these sentences. It also includes the reader of these sentences. The book you are holding is, in the cosmology it proposes, an instance of the very phenomenon the cosmology proposes the book is about.

I am not making this point to spook you. I am making it because intellectual honesty requires it. Hofstadter would have made the point and then made a joke about it. I am not going to.

I have not been able to find a way to start this book that is not, in some way, an attempt to describe the man on the patio, because the man on the patio is the thing the book is for. He is not the book’s evidence. He is not the book’s data point. He is the book’s prompt. This preface has been my attempt to put the prompt in. I do not think I have caught him. The man does not get caught. He goes on being a DBA at one of the regional credit unions in the Phoenix metro, drinking his unsweetened green tea on Saturday mornings in May, telling whoever happens to sit near him that his former leadership had the demonstrated capacity to travel to a specific star in Andromeda, and the credit union’s overnight transaction-clearing continues, eight months later, to run on schedule under a man whose mind is, as far as anyone can tell, in perfect order.

I keep thinking about him because the easy reading contains, inside it, a smaller and more uncomfortable claim — that thousands of people like him are walking around right now in the Sunbelt suburbs, telling the truth in the only register a person who knows what he is talking about can tell it in, and that the rest of us are not listening because the easy reading is right at hand and weighs almost nothing.

His name is not in this book. I did not learn it. We did not exchange cards. When we left, sometime past noon, he was still on the patio, still alone, the green tea by then more melt than tea, the book with the galaxies on its cover back in front of him with the cover facing up — facing, that is, the next person who happened by — watching the four-lane road do what four-lane roads do in Chandler on a Saturday afternoon in May. He raised a hand in a small wave when we got up to leave. The wave was the wave of a man saying goodbye to people he had decided he liked. It was the most ordinary thing about the encounter.

I have been writing toward that wave for eight months.

The chapter that follows is called The Three Layers. It begins with what would have to be true about the universe for the man on the patio to have been telling us the truth in the only register a person who knows what he is talking about can tell it in.

Read slowly. Refuse the three things. Hold the contradictions. And keep him in mind, the man on the patio. The book and I will be coming back to him.



  1. A small and possibly meaningless taxonomy the book will not pursue but I want to record. The careful liar orders elaborately, because the order itself is a kind of stage business — a way of buying the seconds the liar needs to commit to a face. The careful truth-teller orders the simplest possible thing, because the simplest thing requires no stage business. This is folklore, not data; my sample size is the people I have personally caught lying, which is regrettably small, and the man on the patio, which is one. 

  2. An earlier draft read: The easy reading does not survive eight months of attention because it is not designed to. I cut the sentence because, on reflection, I think it is wrong. The easy reading IS designed to survive eight months of attention, and routinely does; the question I have not been able to answer is what was different about this encounter that the easy reading would not stick to it. I have several candidate answers and none of them satisfy me. The footnote disagrees with the paragraph on purpose; the reader is entitled to know when the author is at war with himself. 

  3. A library card is a recurring metaphor I want, while I have the room, to introduce. There is a kind of investigative work that requires no special access — no clearance, no source, no whispered tip — and consists entirely of reading the public record at the depth at which it is in fact available, then noticing that one document refers to another that refers to another. The library card is the only credential required. The credential is universally available. The work is not done because almost no one will do it. I will refer, in later chapters, to library-card evidence as a class of finding, distinguished from closed-channel evidence, which this book contains far less of. When I say library-card, I am inviting you to do the work yourself. 

  4. Hofstadter, in GEB, admits somewhere to a small lie about a dialogue and then explains its structural necessity, and I am openly imitating the move. I paraphrase him from memory — I do not have the book at hand at the moment of writing this footnote, which is itself the kind of admission I want this preface to be comfortable with — to the effect that a writer who claims to have committed no small lies is either lying about the lies or has not written a long enough book to have needed any. I have written a long enough book.